So I don't like the food and hospitality industry. Thank God I found that out before I forked over 50k to become a chef. I was seriously considering going to cooking school a few months back. But to be honest I can't deal with customers. I come from a security/law enforcement background. I intimidate people. Having to smile at assholes is like shooting myself in the leg. I don't do it too well. The only reason I'm doing this at all is because my mom begged me to help her open up a little cafe. To be honest I don't think I'd have too many customers if I were to truly run the place. Every time one of these pricks is rude or gives me attitude I'd like to shove my size 11 tactical boot up their ass. Not to mention I know a lot of them talk down to me because they're Hispanic males who I knoooooow must love the fact that I'm gay, butch and ALWAYS speak English first. Listen I know it's un-p.c. but my philosophy is that we are in America, you work here, LEARN ENGLISH. Which is another theory my gf is correct in. Why are Hispanics the only people that expect YOU to know their language. Haitians don't, Asians don't, Greeks don't, etc...
I'm making less money than I was yet I work more days and hours. I'm tired all the time and I'm starting to see that my body is slowly starting to break down. Which is why I'm taking a little mini vacation in December. Back to my NYC. I think it'll do me good to go back home.
I'm reading S. Bear Bergman's Butch is a Noun. It's interesting. But at the same time very complicated. Sometimes I feel like other butches are so complex compared to me. Then I think maybe we just don't have the same interests. I mean maybe at this stage in my life I don't need to sit and think about why it is that I'm butch nor do I feel the need to label my gender. Not that I think gays who want to be identified with gender neutral pronouns are bad or anything but it's just not for me. I'm just a female identifying butch who still loves to wear NY Yankees baseball caps. Still it's a fascinating read lol.
Did I Say You Could Touch Me?
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Content: spit, strap ons/prosthetics, desperation, neediness, fucking, D/s
“Stay there,” she says, and she shifts her knees on the bed so she’s
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ReplyDeleteS.Bear Bergman and other activists that adapt gender-neutral pronouns and write books about their particular gender identities are doing all butch and gay women a disservice by further marginalizing themselves and alienating their own group and the groups perceived to be like them from mainstream society. Their energies would serve better if directed towards expanding the definition of "woman" to include masculine-identified women *as well*, instead of working to carve out an entirely separate gender category. Gay people as a whole took this route: instead of persuading themselves and those around them that they were something "other" than what society had previously defined, they worked tirelessly to have their identity be normalized and included in the mainstream. As we can see from the gay rights victories and the media, this strategy is working. It would be far better for these same activists if butch women stopped being perceived as something alien and became perceived as simply another category of women--a minority, perhaps distasteful, but still undeniably women and therefore, human. There was a time that lesbians were also considered "other", not part of "women" at all; now that seems absurd, thanks to the work of decades of lesbian activists striving to include our people into society at large. I hope someday what we now call "female-identified butches" and others would be likewise included in mainstream culture and would not feel a need to define their own gender, but be content knowing that they can be as masculine as they want within the umbrella of "woman."
ReplyDelete- the gf
Haha, you asked me to make smart ass comments so here I go, from the bottom up:
ReplyDeleteI know being gay makes one a part of a unique and dynamic community (when's the last time you heard a straight person scream, "Im straight and I'm proud!" or "Im here, I like penis-vaginal intercourse, get used to it!"). But seriously, if I were to identify with every author only because they also happen to love pussy as much as I do and own a penis just like I do... you get the idea. She's got her opinion, you got yours, and her identity may be entirely different from yours even if you share the same gender and both like women. Like you know, me and Bill Clinton we have similar identity and genitalia, but i don't think i'd get a kick off that cigar trick.. at all.
In terms of food service - RIGHT ON. Its not a place you'd want to willingly go.
In terms of speaking English first, im not convinced that really represents the American spirit fairly. Just because English speakers got here first and fucked over the indians don't make them creators of the American experience. We've done away with a lot of things they held dear - you know, slavery, denying women the vote, etc. Frankly, I am MUCH more concerned about immigrants to the US who hate our democracy, those who think America is stupid but use it for resources (right masha? You know the Brighton Beach crowd), those who disrespect our laws, etc. I think of countries like Malaysia and Singapore where multiple national languages exist to accommodate major language groups within their country. Students are forced to learn several languages in school, and you know what? It makes them smarter, and helps them relate to their countrymen even if they speak a different language at home. Learning english is a good idea, but its time US adopt at the very least Spanish as its official language. Besides, las palabras del amor son mas dulces en espanol que en otras idiomas...